Anonymous said: What if the 16 year old is really mature and understands what she's getting into? I feel like if two people want to be together and they're both mature enough to be in a relationship, then they should be
what about no bc a 22 year old wanting to date a 16 year old is literally predatory. A SIXTEEN YEAR OLD IS NOT MATURE ENOUGH TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A 22 YEAR OLD
TW: Rape, Statutory rape, CSA
when i was 15/16 years old i thought i was mature enough for a relationship with a 24 year old man. he sought me out and he was friends with a friend of mine. his best friend was also in a relationship with a girl around my age and that should’ve rubbed me the wrong way and it didn’t because I was just flattered that he’d be attracted to little ol me.
this man continued to talk to me and try to get me to be with him until i finally gave in. thinking i was old enough and responsible enough to handle it. the relationship was awful and tumultuous. he was very controlling, refused to hang out with my friends, or let me hang out with his because the dynamics of our relationship were too weird. he kept me a secret and cut me off from everyone, telling me that if i told anyone about us that it would just get me and him in trouble. and of course i believed him and didn’t want to get in trouble!
He coerced me into doing sexual favors for him that I wasn’t ready for. Forcing my head down on his dick in the back of his car even when I made it clear that that’s not what I wanted. He was the first man I had sex with even though I’d been planning to save myself until after high school. He told me that that’s just what couples DO. And I believed him. I wasn’t ready, I didn’t want it. He made me tell him I loved him and forced me to kiss him. At the time I felt disgusting and used but I didn’t want to call it rape because I figured, ya know, it’s not like I stopped him. It was rape.
HE was the adult, not me. I was the child and I was prayed on. He knew that if he cornered me and cut me off from my friends so that he would be able to manipulate me. I couldn’t talk to anyone about us or get advice or have anybody tell me how wrong wrong wrong everything was. That it wasn’t healthy, that I was being sexually assaulted.
A 16 year old CANNOT consent to a relationship with an adult man. Period. There’s a reason that statutory rape laws exist. Hell, I don’t know a single 20+ year old man who’s trying to find high school students to hook up with with any sort of good intent. I don’t know a man like that just period because I don’t hang out with predators.